Folks seem to deal with their starters in different ways. I can tell you what I do......
My starter lives in the fridge in a 1 quart Mason Jar, with its lid. I feed it or use every week or so. To feed (just to feed, or prior to use) I do the following:
a) 280 grams starter into a bowl (discard the rest). b) Add 150 grams water (I just us tap water). Mix. c) Add 150 grams flour (I use the cheapest All Purpose flour I can find). Mix. d) Place mixture into a clean Mason Jar and let sit at room temp a few hours (so it is active). e) Then back into the fridge.
To use just 5 grams of it (about a tablespoon?), I would grab the 5 grams after step d), above. If the fed starter has only been in the fridge a few days, I'll sometimes just use a bit straight from the fridge. Heresy, I'm sure......