Peter, please provide an example of a post that was disrespectful towards RJ. RJ loves this grill. My experience with thermodynamics tells me unequivocally that this grill is garbage. The focus has been on the grill, not RJ. If RJ wishes to perceive my hatred for this product as hatred for him, then he is completely off the mark.
I love curry. When I meet people that hate curries, I don't treat it like a personal insult.
scott123,
I will send you a PM rather than use this thread to cite chapter and verse. I was also thinking of other threads and even other members when I posted in Reply 34. But what I will say here is that it is perfectly appropriate to state facts. But how the facts are presented is just as important, and arguably even more important, than the facts themselves. If someone is put on the defensive or insulted or made to feel inferior, stupid or lacking in some way, they will most likely ignore or not accept the facts anyway. All they will see and remember is the personal affront.
I also have the benefit as a Moderator of seeing all of the RTMs (Reports to Moderators), the Ignores and requests by members to have their accounts closed. In several cases, we lost some very good members because they felt that they were mistreated by others. We have also lost some members who, rather than asking that their accounts be closed, just left the forum. As a free and open, not-for-profit resource, this forum depends on getting and keeping good members. It is from these members that the forum gets Supporting Members to help pay the bills, which are no longer insubstantial now that the forum has grown so fast and much larger. If not enough people become Supporting Members or they leave or don't renew their subscriptions because they are not happy with the the way the forum is going, then cost recovery becomes a real problem. It also means having to run a tight ship.
Peter
